On today’s episode, Elle and Taylor are joined by Trisha Goodall, a mom of two kids and the founder of Ostaria Parenting to talk about C-Sections. In this episode we talk to Trisha about the birth of her son and the unplanned C-section that brought him into the world, and birth scenario planning cards with “Healthy baby-Healthy baby” on both sides, being left alone after a birth, and forgiving ourselves for making the best choices we could at the time.
That immediate attention shift from birthing person to baby can be jarring and you need to have someone on your team to support your needs.
The birthing person is the one going through this sacred transformation and their experience needs to be honored and recognized.
“Our bodies are meant to be in community and when we come to after having our baby, we’re supposed to be surrounded by this village.”
“It’s really nourishing and helpful for ourselves when we look back at our old choices and say, ‘that’s what I did, I thought I was doing the best’ and I wonder that it was the wrong choice but how do I move forward from that as opposed to dwelling in it.”
“Every baby is different and none of them comes with a user manual.”
“You are deserving and worthy of help and support and being held and you’re meant to be witnessed in this time. Let people in and reach out as much as you can.”
“If it doesn’t feel adequate and you have support, there’s nothing wrong with you. It just means you need more support.”
Listen to the episode here.
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Today’s guest: Trisha Goodall
Trisha is a mother of two young kids and the sweetest dog in the whole world. After years of software project management, Trisha wanted to do more. When a large contract was not renewed due to pandemic cutbacks she took the opportunity to dive head-first into researching how best to serve moms.
Trisha is the founder of Ostaria Parenting, a service that provides support to moms in whatever form it’s most needed, whether through coaching in overcoming overwhelm, recovering from codependency, lightening the mental load through financial planning or school selection, or just as a supportive ear to listen after a hard day.
As a young mother, Trisha often felt overwhelmed and isolated, constantly comparing herself to friends who seemed to be handling motherhood with ease. She felt like she had more help than other moms, and yet still felt like she was going crazy. It took a while for her to learn to stand in her own confidence as a mom without relying on exterior signals. Trisha strongly believes that moms should be able to parent without judgement, in alignment with their own values, and with the support of a community.
You can connect with Trisha through her Moms Against Martyrdom Facebook Group or on IG @OstariaParenting or at OstariaParenting.com
Resources related to today’s episode:
Jack (Not Jackie)! By Erica Silverman
Introducing Teddy: A Gentle Story about Gender and Friendship by Jessica Walton
Red: A Crayon’s Story by Michael Hall
Who are Elle and Taylor?
Elle Kennedy is a maternity, birth, and family photographer and doula based in Orange County, California. She’s a mother of two, a member of the LGBTQ+ community, and an advocate for consent and respect for personal preferences during pregnancy, labor, birth, and postpartum. She homeschools, is polyamorous, loves tea and scones, and loves using her free time to create and bake.
Dr. Taylor Garcia is a Webster Certified Chiropractor located in the Orange County, California area, with a family practice that focuses on pregnant persons and babies. She is currently going through the International Chiropractic Pediatric Association’s certification program and plans to have that completes by 2021. While not a mama yet, she is the consummate “mom friend,” and hopes to adopt with her partners in about 5 years. She is part of the LGBTQ+ community and polyamorous. She believes in focusing on health and wellness from before birth, and using that as a firm foundation for health and wellness throughout life. She believes in the importance of connection and consent in all aspects of life. She is a dancer, a writer, a bookworm, and a fan of music and musicals.
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