On today’s episode, Elle and Taylor sit down with Kate Bean, a mother of 3 lively boys, and former and future foster mom. Kate shares her emotional journey with suspected PCOS, multiple miscarriages, the birth of two biological children, foster care, and adoption.
Her first pregnancy was a surprise, and she had no issues conceiving, through pregnancy, or during birth. But when she and her husband decided to have a second child, they were led on a journey of multiple miscarriages and infertility. They had always planned on fostering and possibly adopting, and during this time, they were contacted and asked to take in a boy to foster.
After her second miscarriage, they decided to open themselves up as foster to adopt parents. Right after this, Kate became pregnant again. Two weeks later, they received a call asking if they would like to foster a 13-month old with the possibility to adopt. They said yes!
She shares the heartwarming story of meeting her adoptive son for the first time, and the beautiful moment her soul recognized his.
“The case worker showed up at our door on a Friday night. I opened the door to this little boy, and my heart said ‘Hello, son.’” – Kate Bean
“It was this amazing, beautiful moment of ‘Here’s my child! Here is my son!’” – Kate Bean
“Our bodies were created to give birth, and I want to experience it. I wanna be fully present. I just want to be all-in.” – Kate Bean
“Once you tell someone they can’t do something, or, you tell ME, mmm mm-mm. Like, hold my wine. Watch this.” – Kate Bean
“I just felt so powerful when it was over!” – Kate Bean
“There’s this kind of magic that you tap in to when you have a baby, and it is unlike anything else you experience.” – Elle
“We are all awesome! We create life and we bring forth life into this world however it comes, and that is amazing and miraculous!” – Kate Bean
She talks about “leaning into the pain,” rather than fighting, and how that surrender made labor and childbirth easier when she trusted her body to do what it was made to do, and let go of the fear of the next contraction.
She opens up and talks about the heartbreak and the difficulties of going through multiple miscarriages, and the bittersweet feelings of sending a foster child back to their biological family.
“Our family does the hard things. We do the hard things. We don’t quit. I know it’s hard.” – Kate Bean
“We do the hard things, because in the end, it’s worth it.” – Kate Bean
“You can’t give up hope. Hope is the one thing that we have to cling to.” – Kate Bean
“Your journey to parenthood may look very different than what you imagined or what you hoped it would look like. But any journey to parenthood is a beautiful journey and is worth it.” – Kate Bean
“Your story is a beautiful story – it’s just still being written.” – Kate Bean
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Today’s guest: Kate Bean
Kate Bean is the wife of Taylor’s cousin, Eric, mom to three lively boys, former and future foster mama, and while she holds two master’s degrees, she currently works part-time from home as an administrative assistant so she can be with her boys.
She loves to read and go camping with her family. Her guilty pleasure is the Bachelor and the Bachelorette, and she can often be found daydreaming about the one week she and Eric spent in Cancun without kids.
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Who are Elle and Taylor?
Elle Kennedy is a maternity, birth, and family photographer and doula based in Orange County, California. She’s a mother of two, a member of the LGBTQ+ community, and an advocate for consent and respect for personal preferences during pregnancy, labor, birth, and postpartum. She homeschools, is polyamorous, loves tea and scones, and loves using her free time to create and bake.
Dr. Taylor Garcia is a Webster Certified Chiropractor located in the Orange County, California area, with a family practice that focuses on pregnant persons and babies. She is currently going through the International Chiropractic Pediatric Association’s certification program and plans to have that completes by 2021. While not a mama yet, she is the consummate “mom friend,” and hopes to adopt with her partners in about 5 years. She is part of the LGBTQ+ community and polyamorous. She believes in focusing on health and wellness from before birth, and using that as a firm foundation for health and wellness throughout life. She believes in the importance of connection and consent in all aspects of life. She is a dancer, a writer, a bookworm, and a fan of music and musicals.
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